Reel Highlights

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Venice Helps

Venice asked if she could set up the bedroom for Xander and her. I said sure. She went in and unrolled the sleeping bags, laid them out on the airbed. She unzipped the bags part way and folded the top back. She set the pillows out with the b b's...and pulled the stools (one stool beside each of them..) over so they would have a place for water. Then she set the stuffed animals nicely on each sleeping bag.

Such a pro...such a good big sister....she did such an amazing job.
love,
Granny

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Thursday, September 18, 2008

Grandkids Play Together...

Just a quick report of one touching incident involving Teiya, but more widely, Venice, Casey, and Xander...

First, just to say that when Venice and Casey and I left Crest School when I picked him up for our outing, the two again had a difficult time deciding where they wanted to go - Amazon Park was one place, but then Venice started pushing for someplace "inside" as it was too hot...! - The "inside" meant a paying place, such as Emerald Lanes for bowling, or Chuck-E-Cheese, or the like - I told her that it was still summer, and the weather was so nice, we wouldn't be doing anything inside till the weather got colder...

Well, this didn't stop Venice - she tried thinking of another place indoors that didn't involve spending any money, while Casey was content with going to Amazon Park - the two couldn't agree...

Venice continued to push for someplace indoors, and I finally suggested that we could go to Granny & Jiichan's house and they could play indoors downstairs in the basement - the two loved the idea, so we headed home - I was on a chip purchasing errand for snacks for our evening with our friends, the Colemans, so we went first to Market of Choice, and then home...

Granny was surprised that we were coming so early, but the explanation explained it all...

So - at one point, the 4 kids were playing downstairs, and Venice and Casey, as the older ones, were given "responsibility" for "supervising" the younger ones - Granny had instructed Xander and Teiya that they were to obey and mind Venice and Casey if anything came up...

Then, at one point Venice and Casey come to the back door, and Venice explain that Xander had hit her, and she had this most innocent look on her face - I asked if she'd done anything to provoke him, and she said, no, she hadn't...

I thot for a moment whether I needed to go down and get Xander's side of the story, or should I just tell Venice to deal with it....I decided to go down and try with everyone there to figure out what happened, and try to ameliorate the situation...

On the way down, I could hear Teiya crying, so decided that it was a good thing I'd decided to come down...

When I entered the basement, Xander was happily running around babbling and singing - Teiya was sitting on the ledge of the upper area, crying - I picked her up, and asked what had happened...

She said that Xander had told her she wasn't Teiya...! - Sniffsniff....I asked her again, as I didn't understand what she meant, but she only repeated what she'd said the first time - I asked Xander if he'd said to Teiya that she wasn't Teiya, and he said no, he hadn't said that, that he said she wasn't Xander...! - Major puzzlement on my part, as nothing either of them said made any sense...

I asked Teiya if he'd said that she wasn't Xander, and she said yes - I said I didn't understand, as she isn't Xander, so why did that upset her...? - Teiya wasn't able to explain...

Then I thot that maybe it had to do with Venice's comment when she and Casey came up to tell me that Xander had hit her, that she had left Teiya in charge of Xander...!

I asked Teiya if Xander had done anything to her to make her cry, but she said no - I asked if when Venice told her that she was in charge of Xander, did she know what that meant, and she said no....I asked if not knowing what that meant made her unhappy, and she nodded yes - and, Teiya further said that when Venice told her, she talked really loud, and that made her unhappy, too...

So - mystery solved...! - When Venice and Casey left the basement to come up to make her criminal report, she left Teiya in charge of Xander, and not knowing what that meant, made Teiya unhappy enuff to cry...

Don't you just love it...?!

Gordon...

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Thursday, September 11, 2008

Jiichan's

Hi Guys,

These two are simply great - I could essentially drop them off someplace and come back in 4 hours, and they'd be fine finding something to occupy themselves...

Before we could leave Crest School from picking Casey up, they had to discuss where we would go for the outing - it always is a big deal, as tho the world's survival rested on their final decision....they started out first deciding they'd just stay at the Crest School play structure to eat their lunches, but as we were heading to the structures, Casey suggested we go to Venice's school and her play structures for lunch - they decided that would be a good idea...

As we walked back to my car, they started exploring other options, Chuck-e-Cheese being one, "because we'd not been there in over 2 months...!" - the magical time lag between paying events - that was dropped for bowling, again because we'd not been there for several months - by the time we got to the car, they were still deliberating on where we should go, and when I asked if they still wanted to go to Venice's school for lunch, they said they were still deciding...!

Everyone got buckled up, I started the car, and Venice suggested we go to Amazon Park, and they could eat their lunches on the dinosaur - Casey agreed that'd be a good idea - but when I started the car moving, Venice said they'd not decided yet - then she corrected herself, and said she'd not made up her mind yet - I reminded her that she'd suggested Amazon Park, but she said that it was only a suggestion for them to think about, and she'd not made a final decidion of what she wanted to do today...! - So, I shut the car off...

Venice mumbled "Amazon Park..." - "bowling..." - "Amazon Park" - then, she said that it should be Amazon Park, because it has a lot of shade, and they wouldn't need sun screen - Casey agreed...

On the way, Venice asked if we could stop at Ben&Jerry's so she could get a shake for her treat - Casey liked the idea so he could get a cone to take to the park....we stopped at the mall, and went in to B&J's - Venice got a shake, and Casey got a dish instead, because he wanted to carry it over to Amazon Park - when we got our ice cream, and as we were leaving heading for the car, Casey asked if we could just sit here and eat our ice cream - I said fine, and they proceeded to play on the low concrete wall around the walkway and tables outside all the little shops there - we spent maybe 40 mins while they climbed the low walls and "tight-rope walked" along the wall, stopping periodically to eat their ice cream or drink the shake....Casey's ice cream melted, and spilled over the edges because the sun was so hot and he wasn't eating it fast enuff....at first he said he didn't think he could eat all the ice cream, but I told him to eat as much as he could - after I'd helped him with my eating a couple of spoonfuls, he did finish it all....I finally suggested we go over to Amazon Park, mainly because there wasn't much shade where we were, and I was tired being in the hot sun - reluctantly they agreed, they were happy just to stay playing on the wall as their play structure...

When we arrived at Amazon Park, the two of them headed for the dinosaur, and started their lunches - they interrupted lunch when they packed everything up and went over to the tower and fire engine structure - they opened their lunches on the top of the tower, and between bites, climbed on the structure, and went over to the fire engine and climbed that, and at one point even climbed over the wire fence separating the play structure area and the surrounding grassy areas and bike paths - then, they climbed back over, and resumed their play...

At one point Casey told us a joke that Tori had put in his lunch = "What did you say after eating a Wookie...? - Mmmmm, chewy...!" - I'm not sure Venice got it, her not knowing that much about Star Wars, but she did laff - Casey roared with laughter...! - I told him I thot it was pretty funny...

It took the two of them the whole afternoon to finish their lunches, and I think they finally did - at least I think they did - one time during all this, they left their lunch boxes open near the empty wading pool, and they were visited by about 4 big black birds - they didn't seem to find anything of interest, tho they did poke around a bit - I couldn't tell if the birds actually ate anything or not - the wading pool has been empty for a long time, and in fact I don't recall any time I'd been there when there was water in the pool - it didnt' matter - the two found twigs, leaves, pebbles, and who knows what else, and made up some game involving all these things - they didn't need any play strucrtures, as they made up a whole story and activity around the things they found right there - they played at this for nearly an hour...

At no time was there any tension between the two that I could see or hear - they get along famously, and seem to genuinely like each other - they play off each other's strengths, and don't seem put off or feeling put down for not having skills the other has - Venice is clearly the more athletic, with excellent small and gross motor skills - Casey is less so, but even he has improved in his climbing and running skills - he seems willing to try to climb or do anything in a physical way, and does a fair job of keeping up with Venice....Venice is the one with the huge imagination, and she usually starts any of their discussions of what the plot or story line will be - Casey contributes, and seems to hold his own with adding things from his own imagination - they play off each other quite well...

Venice doesn't have the depth of knowledge about Star Wars that Casey has, but that doesn't seem to bother her - She typically doesn't bring it up, it being Casey who does - if she doesn't know something that Casey is talking about, and "stuff" about Star Wars comes pouring out of him like a flood, she just says so, and he explains it to her - she's seen the Star Wars display at McDonald's, so she has some familiarity with the characters - when Casey describes one of them, she remembers "him" from the display....Casey also brings up a lot of things that Venice has never had interest in, they being something scientific, or something esoteric that only Casey would be interested in, but of late she seems to be catching up in terms of things scientific herself - anyway, the two can carry on a conversation about something scientific, something to do with Star Wars, something about faeries, about goblins and dragons and Jack Frost, and whether any of it is something real or imaginary, something that could never be, or something only possible in the future - as I say, they get along famously, and I'm just along for the ride - well, a driver on their ride...

They don't seem to be much aware of other kids around them when they're together - sometimes another kid near their age will be playing near them or will come up and try to enter into whatever they're doing, and will usually be the one to begin some exchange, and I'm usually not near enuff to hear their conversations - they may play together for a while, then the other kid will be off, leaving the two of them and they return to whatever they were doing seemingly without missing a step...

Yesterday they were playing on the fire engine, when a child, maybe 24 months old came up, cautiously because they were whirlwinds on the fire engine - Venice and Casey are climbing on, rushing around, and jumping around and off of the fire enjine, so the little girl is way intimidated - she touches the back of the fire engine, then backs off, and as her mom comes up tells loud enuff that I hear her that the two kids, Venice and Casey, told her she couldn't go on the fire engine - I'd not heard or seen either of them say anything to the girl, and in fact they seemed more oblivious of her as tho she weren't there, but I told Venice and Casey that they couldn't tell the girl she couldn't get on the structure, and Venice said she'd not said anything to her - the girl's mom said it was all right, neither of the two said anything to the little girl, that she just made that up...

I did tell Venice and Casey that they still needed to be conscious of littler kids around them, and to make sure they weren't too overwhelming for them - Casey and Venice said "We know...!"

The two were very reluctant to leave the park - I'd given them a headsup of 20 mins, then 15, then 10, and then 2 - that it was then time to leave...."Awwwww...!" - When they had to go back to the tower for their lunch boxes, they took the long circuitous route climbing on every play structure between were we were and the tower - and, they followed the same long-way path back to where I was....they dragged their heels getting into the car, and even once we were on our way, Venice wondered if we Casey to could play at her house before going home - "Pleeeeaaasssseeeee...!" - Venice said to Casey that they should talk to their Moms and see if he could have a sleep over tonite, and they should really try to convince their Moms about it....I told Venice that we didn't have enuff time for Casey to play at her house right now, because his Mom would be picking him up at 5:00, and we were going to just get to our house by that time - "Awwww....! Pleeeasssseeee...!"

So when I dropped Venice off, she was sad that she had to leave Casey, and we talked about a sleep over at Granny and Jiichan's sometime soon - that didn't help her right at that moment...

So that was the day - I never know where we're going for our outings, but I'm going to have to rememger to take a book to read or something...

Jiichan...

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He's In Love With Me (part 2)

Now today she says with a huge heavy sigh, "Now [insert different boy's name here] is in love with me too."

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Wednesday, September 10, 2008

He's In Love With Me

Walking to the car after school, Venice says, "I'm not happy about [boy's name here] coming back to school."
"Why?" I ask.
"Because," she answers, "he's in love with me."
"He is?" I inquire.
"Yes," she says, matter of factly.
"How do you know," I really am curious now.
"Well," she starts. "He scratched me today and when I asked him to stop, he said he couldn't because he's in love with me."
Wow, life is sure moving fast.

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Tuesday, September 09, 2008

Venice Starts First Grade

Venice has begun First Grade. Wow. The days leading up to school we talked a lot about all the old friends she would be seeing again. She seemed to be a bit nervous, but not too bad. We were all excited for a successful first day. And it was! She walked right into her classroom, found a seat and was great when we hugged and kissed goodbye. Yay!


















The next two days followed similarly. On Friday (school started on a Wednesday), I got a call from the school that she had a sore throat and wanted to come home. It was only a few hours before the end of school and I knew that Strep Throat was going around the classroom, so I didn't think anything about it. Picked her up, went to see the Dr. just in case. Enjoyed our weekend.


















Then, on Monday, I was across town and got a call just before lunch time, that Venice was in the office crying and wanting to come home. I think she was claiming her tooth coming in was hurting. I drove to the school in a huff, with mixed feelings. I realized that she was starting to manipulate the system, that she probably wasn't sick on Friday, that she's not really sick right now, that she just doesn't want to be at school. Here we go again.

So, I drove to school swearing into the air, frustrated, angry. I brought Motrin with me and found Venice in the office. I gave her the medicine, just in case her gums really did hurt. Then we proceeded to talk. I asked her what was really going on. I finally got her to confess that she's sad in school. She missed her Kindergarten teacher, wasn't used to her new teacher yet and didn't like to be away from Mom for so long. She just wanted to be at home. At this point, my anger was gone and I was heart broken. I was sad it was so hard for her.

We talked about several issues. One, that she got used to her Kindergarten teacher, and that she would get used to her First Grade teacher as well. That it's boring at home and she'll have lots of fun things to do at school. And that it's the law, she has to be in school. After many minutes of tears, and her saying through a brave front, "I don't know how to stop crying." and then to, "I guess I can try." I walked her to her classroom, handed her off to the teacher with encouraging words, and walked away from my crying daughter.

I drove home in tears, myself.

When I picked her up from school, she was fine. She had been a little sad for a few minutes after I left, but had picked herself up, cheered up and the afternoon volunteers never knew anything had happened in the morning.

Phew. One week under our belts. We've had a few additional bumps in the road, one involving an owie on the hand and chocolate bribes to get back to class, but for the most part it's been smooth sailing and she's enjoying school now. Phew.

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Saturday, September 06, 2008

Am I Forgetting Something?

I got to go shopping today, sans kids. As I parked the car and was walking towards the mall entrance, I noticed my hands were free. I guess I'm used to holding hands with Xander and guarding Venice as we walk through parking lots. It was a really weird and empty feeling.

Friday, September 05, 2008

BFF... already?

On the way home today, Venice tells me she has three BFFs. "Katherine, Grace, and the girl in pink and white."
I asked, "The girl in pink and white?"
"Yes," she replies.
"Hmm. And what about Shelby?" I ask.
"Oh yes. He's my BFF in the boy catagory." She says.
I'm still amazed that she even knows what a BFF is!

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